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He is out of his mind (Ta-Nehisi Coates)

I thnk it’s sad that a high-profile AA athlete would generalize black women, especially since he came from one. That’s like generalizing black men as being lazy or criminal.

Just a hot mess.

I’m confused you say that I posses an attitude
But if you stop to think about this
attitude you’d know that it comes
from the same stress of a nation that
continues to reject us
it’s from you forgetting
that it was the strength of
a woman with skin as
bronze as mines that turned
you into the strong black
man you are today,
then you walk down the street with
that snowflake like everything is okay.

My wife, who is black, walks down the street with this snowflake every single day. And everything is OK.

Yes, he needs to be crazy. First of all, no one has a right to touch another person’s body without their expressed permission. Secondly, let us just ask him to leave the Washington Redskin organization for good. Thirdly, he not only insulted the Black young lady, but the White woman he was with.

James, I think that black men are good enough to date any race of women or men that they want. However, I do not like insulting anyone’s ethnicity. It does not make me feel superior. Be forewarned, Mr. Haynesworth does not respect women as human beings. Date and/or marry him at your own risk.

I’m absolutely in support of interracial relationships and marriages.

But there’s never a need for people to disparage the opposite sex of their own race/culture and hold up “examples” as to why they don’t consider them worthy of being with; IR dating should be about love and respect, and not about “escape”. Any man who utters the words, “I don’t date [women of my phone ethnicity]” probably needs to be checked out–there are issues, internalized stereotypes, and plain old stupidity there.

Just to point out that Ta-Nehisi Coates was not writing about the Haynesworth case. He wrote that passage before the Haynesworth incident even happened.

I’m not saying what he wrote doesn’t have problems, but it shouldn’t be construed as a defense of Haynesworth.

This viewpoint is sad and indicative of someone who is plain pitiful. If he doesn’t date black women, so what. However, to categorize a whole group of women by negative experiences he may have had is certainly unfair. This article should never have been written to give attention to such bafoonery.

This article is a bunch of crap.. and i dont interacial date,, thats my thing,,i cant see how all of a sudden its ok to date white women .. when whites have been racist for centuries and still are.. it doesnt bring harmony together among black and whites just because a white woman and a black man sleep together it takes more than that after all these years of pain! He is a idiot and so are a lot of those black NFL players who think white women are better, no woman is better .. its good and bad in every race.. i even heard some black men say “all women are the same just a differnece in skin color” not true.. its a differnece in culture , the way they were raised lots of things,, but if that was so true then why do they promote the white women are better than black women lie! smdh!!

Well, what is really disgusting to me is that he’s trying to use his preference for DATING women of other races as his excuse for why he couldn’t be guilty of the sexual assault of a black woman. In fact, the obvious lack of respect that he has for black women (no, not because his own partners are white, but because of they way that he dismissed the claim as being inconsequential and untrue because of the accuser’s race) to me would indicate someone who definitely feels that he should be able to use black women as he sees fit.

Sexual assaults, sexual harassment, and rape are about power, not sex. If that wasn’t true, then old women, children, and boys would not be victims of sex crimes. I’m pretty sure that when I read about elderly women being raped, the perpetrator doesn’t have an 80 year old girlfriend.

So I’m a little disturbed that too many of the comments have veered into discussing the whys behind the preference that some black men express for women of other races, when in reality we should be talking about why men with money think that they can abuse women and then be so dismissive about it. (She’s just mad that I”m not with her. Excuse me, but this wasn’t a situation when you were hitting on a woman or when she was hitting on you. The charge is sexual assault. And to claim that you couldn’t be guilty b/c you don’t find her attractive is ludicrous).

The response to, did you or did you not batter or assault this woman should be “yes” or “no.” Not, it’s a lie b/c I find all women of her race to be ugly.

So really, what this man is saying is that black women won’t let me sexually assault them because they are “mad” that I’m with a white woman. And that is just sick on so many levels.
I realize that he is innocent until proven guilty, but we do not want to go down the slippery slope of men being able to claim innocence by virtue of the fact that the supposed victim is ugly to him or jealous of him.

I don’t care what color your partner or wife’s skin is. None of that is a reason why you could or could not be guilty of assaulting another woman.

In this case, the comments from men, both black and white, praising black women miss the mark entirely.

I sort of knew who he is but I looked him up wikipedia. Wooh, this man has very serious issues and the least are his opinions of black women. I really think he has mental issues and the rantings of a lunatic should not even be worth the mental thought it takes to process them. He is from a small southern town and he has let his fame and wealth make his head big. If he keep up with all the foolishness he’s been invovled in he’ll be out of the league and we’ll see who want him then.

The man is an idoit that suffers from cognitive dissonance. He was attracted to the waitress because of her physical beauty. This however conflicts with the programming of his pea sized brain that tell him that White women are more attractive. Since he cannot reconcile the two

thoughts, he confusion manifest in the assult of this Black woman. The number of White women that he dates will only increase his self hatred because the answers he need cannot be found in White women. Ask tiger Woods.

Black women need to grow up and stop whining about Black men not liking them. Stop and think: WHEN was the last time you heard a Black woman say ANYTHING positive about Black men when whites give them the opportunity to speak on the subject of Black men on national television, radio, in national magazines, or in novels? You can count the times Black women have said anything positive about Black men over the past 20 years on one hand. When it comes to Black men, Black women are worst than the Tea Party– downright fanatically consistent in their contempt for Black men.

So it should come as no surprise that when many Black men achieve financial success, they are in no hurry to run back to the hood to find a Black woman. Black men are not stupid: They know most “educated” Black women would not even speak to them unless they have money, power, or influence. You can’t WIN an “educated” Black woman’s heart, you have to BUY it. And Black woman say so every time they get a chance.

So stop whining: Black women have made this bed and now they have to sleep in it.

Nobodies complaining. You just wanted this moment to generalize a whole race of women.

I accidentally “liked” your comment when I meant to reply.

I have seen black men disparage black women in the media constantly, and not just high profile black men. I see it on social networking sites as well. I have yet to see a black woman do the same.

Also, this woman who was ASSAULTED didn’t complain about him dating a white woman. She complained about being fondled against her will. It’s sad that you assume that a black woman with a legitimate complaint against a black man is merely bitter and angry about his dating preferences. Get your head out of the clouds and get off your soapbox.

Seriously, you are so off topic. This article wasn’t even written BY a black woman, and it’s unfortunate that a story about an entitled idiot harassing/assaulting a waitress was used as a segue into a discussion about black men who don’t date black women. It was a very weak transition and the focus should have been on the harassment. And I don’t think that anyone is complaining about not getting sexually assaulted by a moronic football player.

From the looks of things, and from my experience with them, black athletes are not the brightest bulbs in the box. They make their money busting their ass for a bunch of white billionaires, frequently act like uncivil hoodlums or apes, screw everything that moves (or try to anyway), are materialistic and uneducated, cheat on their women and end up broke.

Other times when I do see a black man with a non-black woman, I think “hold up, would I even date him if he asked me?”. The answer is usually “no”. It’s not my loss. This isn’t always the case, but I can’t currently think of a time when it hasn’t been.

It’s kind of sad how black women, who are increasingly more educated and financially secure than black men, still value black men more than black men value black women. Snap out of it, ladies! It is not worth the time searching for that “good black man”. There are few who will measure up to you and be able to pull their weight in a relationship. If black men want to fall behind, then leave them there and move on to better things.

Compassion, commitment, vision are not Black qualities. I beg the difference with you and find it very insulting for you to type such nonsense. It is evident that you went to the Causcoid school to become a journalist however due to the fact the majority of my sisters and brothers has been in mentally, physical, emotional, spiritual and verbal slavery by the past powers to be that played games with their lives.
If you were blessed to overcome some adversity that is great but do not ride on anyone’s else back and put down my kin.
You are an insult to journalism to print such nonsense with the writing powers you possess.

In reality black men do better than black women when it comes to making money,and business.It is true more black women go to college but black men still make more money while black women continue to to be lazy and go on welfare blaming black men.Black women have to do better than black men will give you a chance,and materialistic is not something black men like in women.Did you know more black women assault black men than black men who attack black women.If black women learn not to fall behind black men then maybe things may change in the future if not then black women will continue to be single.

Thanks for the positive feedback and sure you are being genuine. The WAY you responded sounds very opinionated, though (not wanting to argue, just looking at the WAY you write) “I think that black men are good enough to date any race of women or men(?) that they want.”. I don’t think i’m important enough to share my opinion on any ones decision to date another outside of their race. I hope that one day I truly understand and live that way. Much love, james

LOL… This is almost FUNNY…

Well sista, it sounds that you are just as bitter as “him” so you contradict your disapproval of how he speaks, you put Most Black men down because “ONE” black man has a twisted view of women period, one day he will eat, chew, and swallow his words. so be bigger than him and dot follow his path, love whom ever God put in your life, in fact, if you ask God first about whom you should be with and wait, you wont have to worry about race creed or color

Ok, obviously, “RED” you are not African American, so please stop trying to stir up strife, between “US” because you sound like “Him” out of touch!

Sexual abuse is the issue. Who cares about you having a white gf!! She said you grabbed her breasts. Black women, since the guys are always trying to make you inferior of who you are, trust me when I say that a female is a female no matter what race they are. The only different is the color of the skin. Those white women are after the money, honey and trust that when they leave wheter they are married or not they take half. Most of the men be acting slike crack addicts needing a fix run behind these women. Look at Tiger Wood and Reggie Bush, those white women made them look stupid. Kim made Reggie look dumb on national television. So stop talking stupid and take ownership for what you did and stop trying to save your relationship now that its out. You are the one that wanted the world to know that you dated a white women, but we really don’t care. Who are you anyway? What team do you play for? Remember there are two sides to every story, yours just got brought to the forefront. Now, you know how to act when you go out in the public. If you don’t won’t your gf to know, then don’t do it. Because at the end of the day, YOU ARE STILL BLACK!!

Ok, Ok he’s a dickhead. But I feel that this article far reaches that of a men making lame exccuses. It’s more like IR bashing to me. Especially that of the African-American + Caucasian varity(mspl). I think that AA’s need to follow the final words of thie article in regards to all relationships. I mean maybe, just maybe, that WHITE,ASIAN,MIDDLE EASTERN women was there supporting him when AAW did not. Like the guy said he founds things that are not characteristic of AAW. This should being ringing bells in the heads of older and young ladies alike. Support starts early and continues afterward. I’m not talking about when he finally makes it. I’m talk about (since we’re talking about celebs) when he’s that skinny nerd or flambouyant male you think to be gay. Support is only part of the parkage. Caring for him, being laid back and encouraging helps too.

Loved the poem though it sounded anti-IR too me. I’m I wrong to feel that way? I think it’s perfectly ok to walk down the street with a snowflake, yellow lightening, or a RED harvest moon. If the feelings and love is tight..its alright!

Look kimmy, you have two choices. Waddle it past pain or rivel in future joys. Treat everyone as an individual not the ethnic group they are born into. Rather it be through a IR or through friendship..how else are we to close wounds? Why hold it over every generations head over somethin that happened before their birth? It’s like saying “I can’t be friends with you because your great great grandfather raped my gg grandmother.” Now, imagine that you were friends before knowing this. Does it logically make sense to break off a friendship?

WOW! I praise black men everyday including my wonderful black husband, father, brother-in-law, male friends, colleagues and even black men I don’t know. I pray one day you have a change of heart about me and my beautiful black sisters.

Whats crazy is that people like you never think ask yourself, if i was broke, lived in the hood, or wasnt educated, would this white woman even give me the time of day? If you go to the hood right now and find a black man with no job, guess who couch he’s going to be sleeping on, who’s food he will be eating and whos car he’d be driving???? His black girlfriend, who work her ass off, gets an education, and pays the bills!! You tell me if you ever went to a broke black man and found he was dating a white supermodel! Please!
You black men seem to forget that white women are much as goldiggers than any other women. Reading your comment makes me want to vomit.

Wow I wonder how his black mom or black sisters feel about that statement

And I can tell you the last time he dated a black girl right before he signed his NFL contract… 

If she wants to walk with you because she loves you then its fine. These players have decided that black women aren’t worth their time. If you are looking for an apology for my hearts words I can’t give you that

I am anti generalization.

I think you missed the bus on this one. The author was not putting down your “kin” nor is he trying to demean black people by saying that “compassion, commitment, vision–are not ‘black’ qualities.” What he is saying is that these traits are not unique to anyone racial or cultural group. He is saying his partner exhibits these qualities not because she is black but because she is an individual, a human being with these wonderful criteria.

this seems to be a trend these days. bash black women, bash black men, tear down on each in the public eye. we make ourselves look so bad, we are buying hook line and sinker into the propaganda. the media is trying to divide us and many of us are all too willing to do it. the interracial propaganda is also getting sickening, there is no balance on television. black males are rarely shown next to black female counterparts, they are always pairing the black woman or man with a non black or biracial costar. and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

sometimes love isn’t love, especially when it wasn’t love to begin with, but when its about the soft subtle message that black is inferior, ugly and downtrodden. that you can only move up with a white person on your arm.  Albert is doing what the white racists cant, come out publically and insult black women. he, like many other black people use whites as deflectors for deep seated loathing of their blackness. ” i don’t like black women” i dont date them, they all have attitudes. codeword for, i am not interested in them and i have moved on. i onlly  date whites/ others, but i am too ashamed to admit that.

i was talking to a white mother of biracial children the other day, she seemed to “get it” she claimed she did, she admired the civil rights movement, love was love, etc. but she came out of her mouth and said ” their” children were way cuter than “ours” meaning black children. now for all of her “getting it” this is the garbage she will instill into these biracial children. How can her husband accept that? Of course i called her on it politely but i w as hurt that she would say such a thing.

Maybe black people need to sit down and really ask themselves do we care about what is going on in our communities, the jobless rates, out of wedlock births, low marriage rates, incarceration, 70 percent single parent homes, hiv and std rates, etc. instead of deflecting and running to whites and blaming each other for everything

Maybe, he didn’t like coming from one. Most coaches are white from the NFL. For the most, they see black as a negativity as far as upbringing. It is something to overcome. But the fact is, if you show any culture that isn’t perceived as white, you are in doo-doo.  Especially, in the NFL.

But the game is winning. You look at terrorists and you look at the good minorities. What do they have in common, they aren’t married to white woman. Yet, the good minorities, get the same amount of blame as the terrorist. The unwritten rule of thumb is in power (especially) minorities will always get the blame when they aren’t married to a white Christian spouse.  Elvin Hayes. 

Sharrlize, its rarely that I insult someone, but you my friend are one of the biggest idiots I have come across in a long time and the only reason I don’t label you a “Fool” is the bible mentions to call not thy neighbor a “Fool” Not sure what neck of the woods you come from Sharrlize, but where I’ve grown up, most of the couples in the communities I’ve lived in reveal the majority of Black men with Black women. White Black interracial dating only makes up about 10% of the total population in the U.S. which is only a small percentage of the overall population. There are other factors underlying which I shall not go into publically. Some of you may understand what I am speaking of.  Sharrlize, you, my friend are an Idiot and you speak from ignorance! Get your head out of these blogs and stop believing the hype you read and get into the real world. The people that blog are only a percentage of the population. In the real world, most Blacks are with their own kind. And once again, in the real world Sharrlize, something, you may have missed growing up in, the negative things said about Black men have mainly come from Wte media, not Black women. Black men know their history and the things they have done, and thats something they have to clear between God and themselves and between Black women and theirselves. Black men have a strong history of many wrongs of which I will not go on to list, so any negative remarks as you are want to point out have been justified and Black men know that many things said in reference to them have been fully justified. So whatever point you are trying to make, I think you missed the boat a long time ago. Whatever your culture, you obviously don’t understand the history of Black men and Black women, so why speak on something you obviously know nothing about! A word to the wise, stick to your own kind and leave Black men and Black women to work out the woes in their own relationship, for Without a Doubt they are God/Yah’s first born and whatever man has been separated, God will once again rejoin in the end!

Sharrlize, its rarely that I insult someone, but you my friend are one of the biggest idiots I have come across in a long time and the only reason I don’t label you a “Fool” is the bible mentions to call not thy neighbor a “Fool” Not sure what neck of the woods you come from Sharrlize, but where I’ve grown up, most of the couples in the communities I’ve lived in reveal the majority of Black men with Black women. White Black interracial dating only makes up about 10% of the total population in the U.S. which is only a small percentage of the overall population. There are other factors underlying which I shall not go into publically. Some of you may understand what I am speaking of.  Sharrlize, you, my friend are an Idiot and you speak from ignorance! Get your head out of these blogs and stop believing the hype you read and get into the real world. The people that blog are only a percentage of the population. In the real world, most Blacks are with their own kind. And once again, in the real world Sharrlize, something, you may have missed growing up in, the negative things said about Black men have mainly come from Wte media, not Black women. Black men know their history and the things they have done, and thats something they have to clear between God and themselves and between Black women and theirselves. Black men have a strong history of many wrongs of which I will not go on to list, so any negative remarks as you are want to point out have been justified and Black men know that many things said in reference to them have been fully justified. So whatever point you are trying to make, I think you missed the boat a long time ago. Whatever your culture, you obviously don’t understand the history of Black men and Black women, so why speak on something you obviously know nothing about! A word to the wise, stick to your own kind and leave Black men and Black women to work out the woes in their own relationship, for Without a Doubt they are God/Yah’s first born and whatever man has been separated, God will once again rejoin in the end!

So many Blacks have been brainwashed since the Willy Lynch days, its really sad to see. God/Yah created you to be the leaders and for others to follow and rest assured, this shall one day be as it was intended to be from the beginning. As Blacks, you have mad talent, creativity, style, endless beauty, swagg and pizazz, you have so much that the rest of the world envies and tries to create artificially! Don’t buy into the media hype as you are not what they make you out to be. As Blacks, whether or not you have taken the time to read about your true history, the history that Wtes have tried for centuries to hide from you. Ask yourselves why have they hidden your true history, your inventions, your creations from you, from your children, from their school books etc. Wake up Black folk! Its time for you to come out of your slumber. Your one greatest enemy has been those who have stolen your true identity and til this day continue to hide your true history from you. Its not for you to marry the very same people who have caused you to err in your ways and break Gods laws and commandments! Please wake up Black folk!  As to the Black football player in the above article, one can only say, Sadly, its just one more brainwashed negro that hasn’t been enlightened! That any Black man can hate on his Black sister, when it was a Black woman that birthed him into this world, tells you just how brainwashed some have become. Don’t let the worlds views change you my Brown Brothers and Sisters into something that you are not meant to be. Pray for your Black men, young and old. What I can tell you irregardless of your beliefs is that its you who the world falsely refers to as Black, but indeed you are Brown as the earth/dust, will one day be restored to the leaders you once were and were meant to be as written in scripture. Start reading up on your real Black history my friends and connect it the whats written in the scriptures, you will indeed start coming into the light, eventually have understanding, and will know the truth! God Bless!

Buy a Black woman’s heart? How stupid can  you sound? Are you one of those guys that got picked on by Black girls growing up and now you are an immature big boy you want to fault all Black women by saying something so false. 

Buy a Black woman’s heart? How stupid can  you sound? Are you one of those guys that got picked on by Black girls growing up and now you are an immature big boy you want to fault all Black women by saying something so false. 

Black men can be such racist sickos (at times)! There is no excuse for this!
You think Jews control the media! Immigrant MEN are taking your jobs! Black women are  money grubbin whores or hood rats!
You made statement here with NO PROOF! Just the same old angry black man crap!
Black women haven’t said anything positive in 20 year!! Black women have embarrassed themselves defending every guilty black man! You are all innocent and set up by the police. You are all good men that are being harrassed by cops and thrown in prison for political reasons. Essence Magazine can’t have an issue without a “How to love a brotha” or “Brothas we love” article.There are NEVER NON-black men on the cover! BLACK MEN MAGAZINE has tan, yellow, caramel, and white women on the cover.
Black men like you are pathological! No matter how well you are treated, you claim to be victims.
In the last 30 year, black men have said nothing positve about black women or non-black men! Just racist, sick, jerks who continue to hurt America, Africa, the Carribean- while claiming everyone is hurting YOU!
Black women lined up to elect OBAMA! Still the black man is the victim.
Stop whining or KILL YOURSELF!

Black men can be such racist sickos (at times)! There is no excuse for this!
You think Jews control the media! Immigrant MEN are taking your jobs! Black women are  money grubbin whores or hood rats!
You made statement here with NO PROOF! Just the same old angry black man crap!
Black women haven’t said anything positive in 20 year!! Black women have embarrassed themselves defending every guilty black man! You are all innocent and set up by the police. You are all good men that are being harrassed by cops and thrown in prison for political reasons. Essence Magazine can’t have an issue without a “How to love a brotha” or “Brothas we love” article.There are NEVER NON-black men on the cover! BLACK MEN MAGAZINE has tan, yellow, caramel, and white women on the cover.
Black men like you are pathological! No matter how well you are treated, you claim to be victims.
In the last 30 year, black men have said nothing positve about black women or non-black men! Just racist, sick, jerks who continue to hurt America, Africa, the Carribean- while claiming everyone is hurting YOU!
Black women lined up to elect OBAMA! Still the black man is the victim.
Stop whining or KILL YOURSELF!

You’re an ignorant man.  I won’t even give you the respect to say “brotha.”  I am educated with a Master’s degree and no man needs to buy me anything.  African American men like you need to wake up and realize that African American women are not like anything you described.  Did any white woman write and sing a song entitled “Brotha” saying there is no one above and I’m here for you like Angie Stone?  Don’t think so.  Bottom line is it’s funny how we supported our men years and our still doing it yet, since segregation ended all you can see is negative views of us.  Pure self-hatred.  We as Africans were the original humans and if you feel that way than you obviously don’t love God since we were made in his image.

sounds legit. couldn’t agree with you more brotha. i wont lower my standards to another black women. all they do is complain when they r insecure

Haynes is a big dumb asshole who has taken to many blows to the head!  He probably couldn’t even get a fine sista till he became famous, the white girls were probably the first ones to find him attractive.  Otherwise what could be this nigga’s problem.  Was his grandmamma a dumb ho?  Was his mamma a ho and abusive a crackhead?  I don’t know what could be this niggas problem…but he sho can’t love his mamma and other women in his family like I love mine!  I have bedded women of all races but I married black women twice.  The sisters are tops on my list; there is nothing more beautiful, elegant, graceful and sexy than a fine, educated, sista with a big butt, full lips, sunshine smile and effervercent personalities.  This Nigga here hates himself and his mamma.  And don’t even think of teling me not to call him a “nigga.”  This is not a term I use lightly; I am not referring to all black people: I’m talking about a realdumb punkass  nigga here!!!!! 

Haynes is a big dumb asshole who has taken to many blows to the head!  He probably couldn’t even get a fine sista till he became famous, the white girls were probably the first ones to find him attractive.  Otherwise what could be this nigga’s problem.  Was his grandmamma a dumb ho?  Was his mamma a ho and abusive a crackhead?  I don’t know what could be this niggas problem…but he sho can’t love his mamma and other women in his family like I love mine!  I have bedded women of all races but I married black women twice.  The sisters are tops on my list; there is nothing more beautiful, elegant, graceful and sexy than a fine, educated, sista with a big butt, full lips, sunshine smile and effervercent personalities.  This Nigga here hates himself and his mamma.  And don’t even think of teling me not to call him a “nigga.”  This is not a term I use lightly; I am not referring to all black people: I’m talking about a realdumb punkass  nigga here!!!!! 

Hello Dumbab
                              some black men marry mexican and white women because it makes them feel better about themselves, because they want the kids to have (GOOD HAIR) and because their skin is white. they also date and marry white women becos with the white women he can do anything in front of her and she will pretend like it didnt happen, like flirting, are touching a waitress, but if its a black women he is with  she would have knocked him right upside his big head for disrespecting her,,,I bet his wifee didt say a word..

 Hey Sugarcane!  Haynes had to be rich and famous to be eligible
to date “fine sista”?  Do you have any more insults for black women?

That’s so funny coming from a black male. Isn’t that all you and every social service/civil rights group ever does- for you?
The black man feels bad because he can’t get a cab. Black male feels bad because his grades are worse than EVERYBODY else. Black male feels bad because he is watched in stores and stopped by cops. Black male feels bad because he wants more positive black males on TV and in movies. Black male feels bad because there aren’t more black men in sports management, blah, blah…..
But according to the black man- everybody else is whining and needs to cowboy up.

It still pisses me off that Hayneworth got away with this racist slur. If he were white- or even a black woman saying that crap to get out of a conflict with black men- he would be thru!
What Haynesworth did is what white racists would do teh few times they were confronted with abusing a black woman or girl. Their defense: ” I wouldn’t TOUCH a black girl- let alone assualt her!”